Are You Frigid? You Are Probably Too Fabulous. (I know, doesn't even make sense right?)



I wonder what we are reading now in popular magazines that in 50 years will seem completely antiquated and passe?

When I first started reading this article, I thought it was written recently. I chose it because in the list of options, it was the one with the most clout and probably would be a reliable source. Then I just couldn't believe what I was reading. Educated Doctors saying that frigid women are "Aggressive Old Maids? Agitated Female 'Champions' " and this is the cause for their frigidity?
So sad that this was in Time Magazine at one point.

And I quote: "There may be an excessive . . . interest in card playing and club and sport pursuits and a proportionate neglect of the husband. This type will take great interest in traveling alone, in purchasing expensive clothes, perhaps even in the aggressive pursuit of a career. Pregnancy is avoided as a nuisance or even a calamity."

WOW. And the punch line is at the very end, where psychotherapy is recommended, preferrable by a male.


I'm so thankful that I live in a time in history where this is simply archived opinion.

Comments

erin.gabel said…
I'm trying to determine whether or not you last line is for real. My brain is flashing "riddled with sarcasm". Perhaps this is because I feel like a certain group of people still play by these rules; husband+babies=happy life.

I refuse to be defined by my relationship status, house, yard, fence and 3.25 kids. I am proud to have a soul sister that isn't afraid to be self sufficient, well read, traveled, educated and fashionable.

The husband and kids can come, but what we have takes years of practice and hard work.
You're right, it isn't simply archived opinion. It is some people's realities. And I'm getting to a place where I can accept that as their journey.

I guess what I mean is that it isnt an assumption that that will be our womanly destiny. An assumption backed by public opinion and "scientists".
Amber said…
Yes, that was a sexist and antiquated perspective.... but I I understood it differently. You say that the Dr.s say that being and aggressive old maid CAUSES frigidity (sexual coldness). But I thought what the author (as sexist as he/she - didn't see the name - sounds) had a different point. I thought the point was that frigidity (inability to enjoy sex) LEADS to old maids, etc. and is a RESULT of psychological issues, such as fear of punishment, conflicting loves, and unconscious resentments and hates etc. Even though I do see a sexist buzz words in the article, I commend them at least for stating "wives should enjoy sex as much as their husbands do."
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